我想這個論點應該是澳洲小學老師普遍的態度，我們學校也是這麼和家長說的。
中國號稱疫情結束，即將解封讓孩子們回學校上課，我在網路上搜尋到之前一個多月封城在家上課期間各種家長、學生、老師的崩潰文章。不管是電腦、網路技術上的挫折，學習效率低落，還有家長被迫伴讀....等等，比較常見的是如何停課不停學，老師努力照著原定進度傳授課程，導致老師、學生、父母、祖父母都覺得壓力山大。只能說，還好我們在澳洲，老師關心心理健康甚於學習內容。
Dear parents with school aged children
You might be inclined to create a minute by minute schedule for your kids. You have high hopes of hours of learning, including online activities, science experiments, and book reports. You’ll limit technology until everything is done! But here’s the thing...
Our kids are just as scared as we are right now. Our kids not only can hear everything that is going on around them, but they feel our constant tension and anxiety. They have never experienced anything like this before. Although the idea of being off of school for weeks sounds awesome, they are probably picturing a fun time like summer break, not the reality of being trapped at home and not seeing their friends.
Over the coming weeks, you will see an increase in behaviour issues with your kids. Whether its anxiety, or anger, or protest that they can’t do things normally - it will happen. You’ll see more meltdowns, tantrums, and oppositional behaviour in the coming weeks. This is normal and expected under these circumstances.
What kids need right now is to feel comforted and loved. To feel like it’s all going to be ok. And that might mean that you tear up your perfect schedule and love on your kids a bit more. Play outside and go on walks. Bake cookies and paint pictures. Play board games and watch movies. Do a science experiment together or find virtual field trips of the zoo. Start a book and read together as a family. Snuggle under warm blankets and do nothing.
Don’t worry about them regressing in school. Every single kid is in this boat and they all will be ok. When we are back in the classroom, we will all course correct and meet them where they are. Teachers are experts at this! Don’t pick fights with your kids because they don’t want to do math. Don’t scream at your kids for not following the schedule. Don’t mandate 2 hours of learning time if they are resisting it.
If I can leave you with one thing, it’s this: at the end of all of this, your kids’ mental health will be more important than their academic skills. And how they felt during this time will stay with them long after the memory of what they did during those weeks is long gone. So keep that in mind, every single day...
Take care.
Farran
來源: https://www.morefm.co.nz/home/shows/more-fm-drive/2020/03/a-letter-to-all-parents-in-the-lead-up-to-nz-s-lockdown.html
中文版為Google 翻譯，再加上少量修飾。
親愛的有學齡兒童的父母們:
您可能傾向於為孩子們制定分秒必爭的時間表。您對進行長時間的學習抱有很高的期望，包括線上活動、科學實驗和書籍報告...等等。在一切完成之前，您將限制技術他們使用3C的時間!但事情是這樣的...
我們的孩子和我們現在一樣害怕。我們的孩子不僅可以聽到周圍發生的一切，還可以感受到我們不斷的緊張和焦慮。他們以前從未經歷過這樣的事情。儘管幾週不用去學校的想法聽起來很棒，但是他們可能會想像成一段好玩的時間，例如放暑假，而不是被困在家裡無法與朋友相見。
在接下來的幾周中，您將會看到孩子的行為問題有所增加。無論是焦慮，、憤怒還是抗議他們不能像平常一樣做事 -都會發生。在接下來的幾週內，您將看到更多的崩潰、發脾氣和對抗行為。這是正常現象，在這種情況下是可以預期的。
孩子們現在需要的是感到被安慰和被愛。感覺一切都會好的。這可能意味著您需要丟棄完美的日程安排，並更加愛孩子。在外面玩，然後去散步、烘烤餅乾和畫畫、玩桌遊和看電影。一起做科學實驗，或虛擬遊覽動物園、全家一起讀一本書、或是依偎在溫暖的毯子下，什麼事也不做。
不用擔心他們返回學校之後的事。每個孩子都在同一條船上，他們都會沒事的。當我們回到教室時，我們將給他們合適的課程以適應他們的進度。老師在這方面是專家！不要因為他們不想做數學而與你的孩子起衝突。不要因為未遵守時間表而對孩子怒吼。如果他們不想連續學習2個小時，就不要堅持他們必須這麼做。
如果我能給您一個建議，那就是：在這一切結束之後，您孩子的心理健康會比他們的學習技能更重要。過了很久以後，他們在這段時間所感受到的一切會留存在他們的記憶中，而不是他們所做過的題目。所以請每一天將此銘記在心...
照顧自己。
法蘭
另外附上如何管理焦慮的建議
沒有留言:
張貼留言